Life Lessons & Self Help Junkies

One thing I wish I would have known as I started my “self amplification” (a.k.a. personal development/personal growth) journey, is how you don’t have to take every lesson as your own.

Along the way you’ll find all kinds of teachers. Some of them you won’t even recognize as teachers until months or years later. Some will be actual teachers or coaches whose lessons won’t be fully understood at first.

But regardless of when you grasp what they were trying to teach you — YOU get to decide if that lesson is in line with your truth. 🙌🏻

For example, growing up I was told by an adult in my life that I was horrible at making friends.

As someone who was abused & bullied from the age of 6 and in therapy for my entire childhood, this lesson got absorbed and was fully believed until I was well into adulthood.

It wasn’t until I was 30 years old that I realized that the trauma I was surviving and the resulting PTSD, anxiety & depression played a pretty big role in how I related to people, my business, myself and the world. 🌎

And even still, not until quite recently did I realize that at my core, I’m actually a loving, nurturing and compassionate friend. 🤯

That the relationships that have faded, though some were necessary, had nothing to do with me and my worth as a friend. As a human.

Some “self-help” junkies (I won’t say gurus because that’s wayyyy overused and frankly, inaccurate & problematic) might say that I learned how to be a better friend.

A better listener? Maybe. 🤔

More friend than coach? Mostly. 😅

More likely to set calendar reminders to check on my people? Definitely. 😂

But I didn’t learn how to be “better at making friends.” I remembered I’m already an incredible one.

I remembered my truth.